This world has decided that every disagreement between people has to escalate and end with division.  We’ve lost the art of conversation, overpowering it with the art of debate.  We yell our opinions, take sides, and fight over everything.  While social media by no means began this behavior, it has certainly exacerbated it until the great crime of our times is to not choose a side on every topic.

Currently in the ECC, that topic is homosexuality.  Though it seems to be an old argument as far as the society around us is concerned, for the ECC it is the current issue and threatens to split the denomination in ways that arguments over atonement, baptism, worship styles, and women in ministry didn’t.  As always in our society, the ends of the spectrum of beliefs on this issue are building battlements and shouting insults at the other side, while the majority of people in the middle become collateral damage.

Today’s text has something important to say to those sides.  While Joshua contemplated the battle ahead, God’s chosen people vs. the city of Jericho, he is met by The Lord.  And his first question is the same one we all are asking when we ponder this debate over homosexuality, or any debate within churches.  “God, whose side are you on?  Are you for us or for our enemies?”  Hear the answer from God loud and clear, people.

“Neither.”

Neither?  How can God be on neither side of this debate?  How can God not be won the side of those who follow His laws and obey His word?  How can God not be on the side of those who humbly welcome and love people the rest of the church wants to judge?  How can God be on neither side?

Because God is not on sides and in fact hates the division that “side” language causes.  God is in unity, and humility, and dialogues, and learning, and loving, and obedience, and peace.  To think that God in on one side and yet there are still two sides is to doubt the very power of God.

If you want to be “with God” on this or any other issue, then you need to stop trying to defeat the other side and instead love them, pray for them, listen to them, and allow them to follow God obediently in their own way.   When we can stop trying to control the debate, then we can let God be in control of it.

Mark names for us three women standing vigil as Jesus died, from a distance watching over the cross.  These were Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James and Joseph, and Salome.  We know that Jesus’ mother was there from other gospel accounts as well and Mark mentions many other women who had come up with Him to Jerusalem as well.  This gathering of women take the role of Jesus’ caretakers as they had during His life and ministry, literally from the very beginning.

Mary, mother of Jesus: What was it like to raise the Messiah know Him to be the Messiah and what’s more, the Son of God?  What was discipline like, for child-like disobedience isn’t always sin?  What was it to help Jesus through His awkward adolescence?  And then to watch with pride as the crowds followed, and with anger as the elders tried to tear Him down?  What went through her mind as she watched at the cross?  “Blessed are you among women,” the angel had said.  I wonder if Mary doubted that, this woman who’s very name meant, “bitter”.

Mary Magdalene:  When Jesus cast 7 demons out of this Jewish woman, she devoted her life to Him in thanks.  She is mentioned 12 times in the gospels, more than most of the other disciples.  She stands at the cross, and we know she will weep in the garden as she encounters the risen Christ.  Our oversexualized culture will try to make a lover out of her, but that is a cruel twisting for a woman who’s very name meant “bitter” due to her lot in life as a poor girl in a culture ruled by Roman soldiers with wandering eyes and hands.

Mary the mother of James the Lesser and Joseph: With her husband Alphaeus, this Mary supported Jesus during His ministry and gave up her son to be an Apostle.  We know little else, yet this quiet, unobtrusive woman, yet again named “bitter”, was given the place of privilege to bear witness to the end of sin’s power.

Salome:  With a name that means “shalom” or “peace”, Salome is assumed to be the wife of Zebedee and the mother of James and John, the “sons of thunder”.  Salome and Zebedee raised their boys to be fishermen, and then sent them off without a word to follow this new Rabbi who eventually would prove Himself to be the Messiah.  With her request to allow her sons to sit at Jesus’ right and left hand, we find a woman seeking a better life for her boys, and a woman of faith who stuck with Jesus to the end.

Loyal and humble, caretakers and witnesses, “bitter” and “peace”, these woman stand vigil, watching as the disciples couldn’t, and bearing witness to the source of our faith, the death and ultimately the resurrection of Jesus Christ.