We Larsons have never been good at anger.  Watching “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” the other day, her therapist told her that it was ok for her to be angry, and she refused.  And as she did, I felt an echo inside myself.  I seldom got angry for the first 40 years of my life.  I prided myself on the fact that I had nobody I could call an enemy.  And it wasn’t until I began seeing a counselor myself that I learned the importance of anger.

It feels like this world has the opposite problem much of the time.  Our culture loves to get angry and does so quickly.  Read any public group thread on social media and you’ll see that it quickly devolves into name calling, shouting, and anger.  What began as “<insert your political opinion here>” within 5 replies will gather haters, vitriol, and even threats of violence.

Solomon must have seen the same anger in his time, for he begins chapter 15 of his collection of Proverbs with advice on how to avoid the anger spiral of the world: “A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.”  A quiet, thoughtful, gentle answer is like a shield for those who can wield it well.  When someone lashes out with wrath, this shield can turn away the blow with little effort.  On the other hand, to return harsh words for wrath simply stirs up anger like a ruckus in a lake.  The clear water is soon stirred up, cloudy, murky, and hiding any kind of thing.

So the next time someone throws a harsh word, a wrathful tirade, or any kind of anger your way, remember to turn it away with a gentle answer.  This won’t show you to be weak but mature in the face of this world’s sinful ways.

Kali had to travel 2 miles to the nearest river for clean water.  Every morning under the African sun she would take a yoke upon her shoulders to carry the two clay jars to the river.  She would fill the jars in the flowing current, hoist them back up onto the yoke, and the yoke onto her shoulders.  The trip home took twice as long due to the added weight.  But her family relied on her, and so she went.

The people began to notice a funny thing about the girls who went for water.  Over time, they began to smile more.  They sang more often as they walked and seemed more at peace with the world.  Kali’s father noticed as well, but was too distracted by Kali’s jars.  One of them had a large crack down the side so that as she walked, she lost water.  Not only that, but the weight on her shoulders became more and more uneven as she trod, making the trip more painful and difficult with each step.  Her father said, “Kali, dear.  Let me get you another jar for the trip.”  But Kali refused and her father obliged her.  Day after day she would return with enough water, but not all she could carry.  Day after day her back hurt a little more and her walk was a little slower.

Finally, her father asked one of Kali’s friends, herself a water bearer for her family, “How can you sing and be happy when your friend Kali is hurting more and more?”  Kali’s friend replied, “I sing for Kali, because she has done a marvelous thing.  You see, as the broken jar spills water along the side of the path, it waters the ground and now we have a beautiful flower garden to see and smell every day when we go for water.  The flowers bring us peace and joy, and make our lives easier.  This is why Kali will not change her pot and suffers… it is for us.”

“But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.”

When people are being dumb, don’t you just want to correct them, sometimes even need to correct them?  People we think are wise are generally not the ones we want to just get it right.  Whether it’s a political conversation, a theological one, or just a battle of opinions, we are most likely to correct those we think are being ridiculous.  But strangely, that is not the advice of Solomon in his proverbs.

Whoever corrects a mocker invites insults; whoever rebukes the wicked incurs abuse.
Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you.
Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still; teach the righteous and they will add to their learning.

Solomon, known for his wisdom, says that fools won’t take the advice anyway so why give it?  He says that only the wise are wise enough to take rebuke and correction well.  Assuming our intention is to help the person we are rebuking, the only ones worth focusing on are the wise.

But here we run into a problem.  When we rebuke people, it usually isn’t for the sake of the person at all.  We are seldom seeking to help our opponents find a new wisdom that we have.  Instead, our arguments are usually about beating our opponents, beating them into submission to our superior opinions.  Our rebuke is usually about us.  If so, then it doesn’t matter who we correct because it isn’t about them anyway.

So Solomon has two pieces of advice for us today.  First, don’t correct someone to show how smart your are or to win a war of words.  Correct them so that they are better people, out of concern for them.  Second, only rebuke the wise who can take your words and grow through them.  And implied in it all, be the wise one so that when you are rebuked, you don’t hear the opening  shots of a war but instead, with humility, hear a rebuke as an attempt to help you grow and be grateful.

“There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil,a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.”

There are a few lists like this in scripture, but it was a common way of poetic writing in this culture at this time. Let’s look at them individually.

haughty eyes – arrogance is inappropriate before God (and where are we not before God?) because God calls us to be humble, recognizing that we are not the King of our own lives.  Much sin in this world has come from people arrogantly putting themselves before God.

a lying tongue – today’s sermon is all about Truth.  Check it out at here.

hands that shed innocent blood – from bullying to unjust legal systems to murderers, this is a pretty wide net.  God hates injustice because He Himself is justice.

a heart that devises wicked schemes – schemes take a lot of work to devise, so while some sins slip into our lives accidentally, this is a fully intentional attempt to be wicked.

feet that are quick to rush into evil – those with a desire, an addiction if you will, to get involved in evil things are unrepentant and therefore desire no mercy.

a false witness who pours out lies – this is bigger than someone who lies for their own benefit.  This is one who foils justice and law by bringing lies into the courtroom, the very place where justice is to be meted out.

The reason for the “six things… seven” formula is to point to the seventh of the list as the ultimate of them all. In this case, though God hates the 6 listed first, He hates the seventh the most.

a person who stirs up conflict in the community – God is a God of order, and so hates conflict between His children.  While the church is often quick to point out others who are engaging in the first six of these sins, it is far more regularly within the church itself that the seventh appears, and it is the most hated by God.  We need to think about that as a community and work for unity and peace, not conflict.

This year, Christian Formation is working on…

Faith Mapping
Updated Brochures
Children’s Ministry

Children’s Ministry Director Position
GROWing CHRISTlike
Bible Memory work
knowing the books of the bible
Curriculum: Gospel Project (Sunday – Old Testament, Wed – New Testament)

Weekly Activities

Sunday School

9:15-9:30am Opening
9:30-10:15am Classes

Sunday Worship Options

Nursery (full worship service)
Children’s Church (second half of worship service)
Worship bags
Sermon notes

Wednesday Night Together

Dinner @ 5:30pm
Nursery & Kids Club (preK-5th grade) @ 6:15pm
Middle School Youth Group @ 6:30pm
Everything finishes at 7:45pm